Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Good morning ladies,

I had an interesting experience yesterday and I can't decide if I should write about it or not. It is a delicate subject and a very sensitive one to some people.

Let me start by saying that I had an appt. yesterday with my midwife. She was going to do a pap smear and check the string on my IUD. I found out after my surgery a few months ago that I have Endometriosis. I have to either take the pill or use an IUD to control it. I have found that I can't take the pill without a lot of really bad side affects. So I use the IUD.

I found that after I took it out last Oct. to try to get pregnant, that my libido skyrocketed. WOW! I had no idea. I found out that even though it is a very low dose of hormone in the IUD, it still affects that area. On me, I REALLY noticed a difference.

Well, with this new one, I have noticed the difference again but the other way around. It is very frustrating to me because I really enjoy sex.

This is where the touchiness of the subject comes in. My midwife told me that you wouldn't believe how many women come in who have been married 10 to 15 years and have never had an orgasm. She had asked them if they ever had they say something like "I'm not sure." She tells them, of course, that THEY WOULD KNOW!. It is not something you can miss!

This makes me sad. I wonder how many women go through life never experiencing something that is absolutely fabulous. And what is wrong with our sons that when they grow up, they do not know how to please a woman? Is it something as parents we need to teach them the night before they are married?

Is it the women.? I realize that there are women out there who have hangups because of sexual abuse, or inhibition or other things. In the catholic church, as far as I understand, they are taught that sex is dirty and bad. That is why babies are baptized. They are conceived in sin according to them.

In our church, this in not the case. In the right place, at the right time, sex is good, clean, beautiful and a God given right and gift. What is it then, that would have a woman go through 10 years of marriage without ever experiencing what it is that makes sex great. (One of the things that makes sex great)?

All I know, is that in my situation, I have to figure out how to overcome this little obstacle to make it good again. I am guessing it will just be a lot of foreplay which after 10 years is sometimes glossed over rather quickly. Dang!

Anyway, I hope this subject doesn't offend any of my friends out there. It was just interesting to me and I wondered what you all thought about it.


Melessa said...

My mother was Catholic and she had an attitude much like you describe. However, one of my favorite co-workers is also Catholic and believes as we do. So I think, as with all things, it depends a lot more on how our parents portray things than what the actual church doctrine is. My parents gave us each a book and told us never to talk about it.
Luckily, I think I still have a pretty good attitude about it.

Can't help with the IUD question. I have noticed an upswing in my drive as I get further into my 30's, though.

melissa c said...

that is a good point. The parent thing. They do make a difference.

Thank you so much for commenting.

Island Queen said...

I too feel sad for those woman who haven't experienced an orgasam. For me it's such a bonding experience. My mother claims she never ever has had one. Thankfully she didnt tell me - she told my older sister who said "oh... i'm so sorry". It took me a few years to feel comfortable enough to really experience with my hubby to see what actually makes me orgasam. My hubby loves it and of course so do I.

It's a good subject to bring up. I think there are far too many woman - even in the church - who don't know their bodies well and may be missing out on truly a wonderful experience.