Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Well, Isn't it interresting being a woman? My husband swears that there is only one day a month where I am possibly "normal" hormonaly. Yes, It is probably true. Today I realized why I was so irritible yesterday! During ceratin times I have more of a tendency to be onery. I tend to be less patient with my kids on those days.
Today, my foster son, J, is fine. His little idiosyncrosis (sp?) have not knawed on me today. Although, it was my turn to drive to dance. I take my 3 yr old and my friend' 3 yr old, and she watches my kids and vice versa. When I went to pick them up, J had taken off his socks and lost them. He does that all the time. I have to constantly check to make sure he has socks and underware on. He likes to delete those 2 things!
My son Jacob, who is 10 did great on his report today. Yes he had finished but came home and said some kids had not brought their posters and get extra time to do it. He felt that wasn't fair after he had worked so hard. It's not fair, but some of those kids probably have parents that forgot, don't care or won't help. I told Jake that if that were him, he'd be glad for an extra day too.
Anyway, that's life. Not fair. If it were fair, we would never grow, never learn, never become better people. Love to you all!

Monday, January 30, 2006

Great weekend

Well, It's a done deal! Little Gabe is ours forever! It was so beautiful! I think there must have been angels with my kids because not one of them misbehaved, yelled, pouted, argued, ran, or did any other undesireable act while at the temple! Yes, I cried. How could I not? just our closest friends were there and it was so quick!
I had an interresting eye opener this weekend. My 10 year old son has a report due tomarrow, on tuesday. A book report. He had to type it, make a poster, do and acrostic poem to go with it plus a journal of the book he had read. Last Wednesday, I had him sitting at the computer and he was crying and throwing a tantrum and saying how much he hated books and computers until I was ready to smack him! So I told him to take a break and I layed on my bed pondering what to do. I little voice in my head said, "remember your love and logic." Yea! So I called him back in and told him that I wasn't going to say another word about the report. If he needed help I would help him but I that I would not do it for him nor would I nag. He knew what to do. He knew when it was due and if He wanted to get a bad grade, well, it was up to him from this point on.
Hello!!!! I should have done that before. He worked little by little all weekend and finished it Monday afternoon. I am so proud of him! it just goes to show that a parent does not need to assume resposibility for everything their kids do. They can actually accomplish things on their own! Who knew?
My foster son J. is doing well. It is a frusterating situation. There are a few things he does that drive me crazy. He tattles constantly, but then so does my own 6 year old. No matter what I say he always asks "why?" I usually say, "you tell me why." so he can figure it out for himself. But I try to be very patient because he does have a little bit of brain damage from lack of oxygen at birth. It's slight but it;s there. Sometimes it's hard to remember that when I am tired. His parents do love him very much. They just honestly don't think that their way of living is wrong. At their house he doesn't even have a bed or bedroom. I think he sleeps on the couch. So sad. I wonder what will happen in the future with him.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

The power of a good do is unmeasureable! It had been a while since I had had a trim and I felt like I looked like a boy. I have been sick for a while with this yucky flu that is going around and that doesn't do a thing for your looks either!

So yesterday I went and had my stylist do it ! I felt completely reborn! There is nothing better than that hot water cascading down your head and those wonderful fake nails massaging your scalp! Better than sex! I got some highlights too which just add to the classiness of the cut. I wish I knew how to put pictures on here but I feel so Beautiful!

I am still sick but I look good! I haven't run on my treadmill for almost a week now but I am just exhausted from this cold. Folding all the laundry that had piled up is about as active as I can handle!

GUESS WHAT! I forget to mention this. We are going to the temple on Saturday to have Gabe sealed to us!!!!! WOW!! This feels so good! Life is so good. Even when it's not. It is just harder to notice then. I am reading a really good book about that right now. It's called "Eve, and the mortal journey" by Beverly Campbell. It is very insightful. I really like it. Anyway, I hope you are all having a good week. Love ya, love, Me.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

old friends

Thank you so much for those of you who comment on my blog. I love that.

I was going through the mail this evening and low and behold, I had a letter from a friend I haven't seen since I was 18 years old! I had come across her parents address in my old address book when I did Christmas letters and decided to send her one and just hope she got it. She did! I was so happy beacuse she is from Norway and still lives there. At least for all I knew she did. She was a foreign exchange student at my high school. She sent a picture of her and her family of 3 kids and husband! She looks the same! still skinny even! How do people do that after having kids?

Anyway, it just goes to show that when you get an impression to make contact with someone, even though you have no idea where they are, follow it! It has made my day and probably made hers too. I don't believe in accidence or coincidences. I think all things have a purpose and a reason and I really feel there is some reason why after all this time, I needed to write to her when I could have been doing it all along. Time just got away from me. i have so many old friends I would love to hear from that I have lost track of. It makes me wonder why people float in and out of our lives and just the right time. Amazing. Have a wonderful day!

Thursday, January 12, 2006

new kid on the block

I can't believe how long it has been since I've written! I am so sorry to all my loyal readers! *smile* That is if I still have any. I have been sooooo busy that sitting down to type just hasn't been a priority.

I have a new foster child. I wasn't going to take anymore but I had a feeling I was supposed to take this boy. He is 6 years old and adorable. His parents claimed he is out of control, and runs away and has AD/HD. Well, I really prayed about taking him and I lost ALOT of sleep over it but I kept getting the feeling I should. I have prayed many times about being a foster mom and the answer I keep getting is that this is my purpose and mission on earth to be a mom to these children who have no one to love them.

Anyway, He is thriving. I got permission from the doc. to take him off his meds because I had a feeling he didn't really need them. He has done great for a whole week without them. I think he is just very suppressed by a mother who won't get up off the couch to do anything; orders him around and when he gets tired of it, he gets in trouble for not obeying and then he runs off. In the week I have had him, he has never thrown a tantrum, run off, talked back or been disobedient.

I praise him constantly and tell him how wonderful he is and how smart and all that good stuff. He just soaks it up. It also helps me to be a better mom to my own kids. It helps me be aware of how I am with my own four and how loving and praising I am being to them. It has been good all the way around.

There are so many children in just my area who need homes. I try not to get irritated or judgemental of others but my situation is not unique. i am not super wealthy. I don't do this for money, but that helps. I can think of ALOT of families in my ward who could help these kids and won't or don't. Do you know what the number 1 excuse I hear is? "I'm afraid I would get too attached and not want to give them back. It would be too hard." Pathetic! That is what these children need! Parents who love them like their own! Well, I'll get off my soap box now and go do my hundreth load of laundry. All the kids are sick and throwing up. I have lots of sheets to clean! But this is what I do best I guess! See you all later!